Integration of the spouse in real estate

Hello to all forum members.
So let's start with the fact that I'm pretty new here, I was joined by my cousin (about two months or more ago), and I was not interested in the forum content until I read one post that sucked me in, and today I try not to miss any post or comment.
I have not yet invested, I have not started learning, I have not tried anything that will advance me for the goal (I am still looking for what the ultimate goal is), so I am probably called in the forum "dwarf", which is nice, but not satisfying.
A few words about myself: Michael, son of 38 (almost), married with three sons 12, 9 and almost two years. Lives in the north, an employee in charge of safety.
My question is about my wife-
How do you interest your spouse in order to go with her / her in the same way? The implication is that the whole investment issue requires giving up on certain things (at least in the beginning), a certain behavior, that will advance the goal, and so on.
How do you deal with resistance or unwillingness to give up luxury?
My wife is not sure that I am serious about the entire investment issue and therefore we have not yet confronted the issue, but I want to be a doctor for the stroke.
Does anyone know the situation? Someone who tried and managed to recruit a spouse? Or is it supposed to come naturally?
Hopes that the question in place, even though it is not directly related to investments.
Thanks to the tortured and a fruitful day.

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• Wow Michael, what an excellent question. A subject I still do not remember coming up here, and I certainly believe that most of the married members of the forum deal with this issue day in and day out. I can tell you that my wife and I get inspired every day from couples on the forum who work together and who have the same line of thought for success and it's just great to see it. Anyone who follows the forum is sure I know which couples are involved. We would love to hear from you how you deal with these issues in your family, and again thank you very much Michael for bringing this up!
• Start talking to the woman and not confront, then let her roam the forum herself. Successfully.
• It happens a lot in our college and I can tell you that it is a sensitive issue because probably a spouse who has no background in the field will be very afraid to "risk" what they have already achieved and it is also clear why there are a lot of stings, scams and mistakes that beginning investors make and may financially eliminate the family. My recommendation from experience will show your wife that you take the subject seriously it is highly recommended that you go through the learning process together even if she is completely passive in investments it will contribute a lot to her self confidence and of course in you because once she learns the subject professionally it will be much easier to cooperate with you. Even contribute to the process
  Good luck 🙂
• It seems to me that what motivates many of the investors on the bottom line is a more comfortable and luxurious life. Economic welfare. If you show her that this goal is for the benefit of both of you, and prove to her that the profit is significant if you do it right, I believe it will start moving the wheel. The goal is to find what is interesting and attract it in the process.
• Ahla asked, I managed to get my wife into the investment world with my enthusiasm for this world
• Wow, I'm lucky. My wife was the one who dragged me into the field.
• We are going to be smart together.
  Lectures, podcasts, books and all the enrichment materials that can expose and harness both of you together for the process.
  From experience, to think alone, less goes…
• The truth is a really interesting question. I guess it all starts before, in your financial decisions with a little money and in your daily conduct. If you make the right financial decisions and there are previous successes then it will be easy to flow with it and even bring her to some conference, there are great conferences here, I missed the last conference but I will come Knowledge is power and you need knowledge to make an informed decision. I can tell you that I had resistance at first because these are insane amounts (I started with real estate in the country so insane amounts) and she had a hard time with it but it worked out she started to see fruit and trust me.

  We got to the point she says just call me the signatures

  And in the meantime everything is banging tofu 5555 lol

  Start with your small successes from the beginning and take advantage of this in your explanation of Alia

  And get the word out to confront her because marriage is more important
  Go hand in hand that will give you security from home
  This is the most important security and only then the security from the stomach

  Successfully

• In my opinion first of all to harness and not confront…
  Learn the subject, ask her to challenge you with questions and issues that concern her, so you can break down the fear for precise details and sharpen the answers yourself.
  Share it in the actual calculations (actual numbers) if she wants to know.
  Hear lectures / go to conferences / read relevant material together and discuss and process it together.
  It seems to me that this will help to bring her into the matter and reduce the level of fear to a more practical and precise form
• They take the woman to the most comfortable and beloved place. When you get there and she enjoys every moment then tell her love and she smiles and then tell her that it can repeat itself but in a more qualitative manner. Reach new destinations in life and you can not even think of enjoying it all by yourself
• Another thing is to share it with all the fears and let it lead
• Motivation side:
  First-hand success stories
  Give a strong tailwind
  Usually close friends and family membersPart of practice:
  Start saving early and as much as possible
  Learn about interest rates and investment alternatives including the real risks of:
  Be prepared with substantial money
  And when everything connects in the end you jump into the water because the swim does not learn on the ground
• She is recruited as CEO Sheryl Sitman
• If you read material and get excited, you'll tell her what you read naturally
  There is a chance that if she persists she will get excited over time…
  it's contagious
  From experience
  You do not even have to strain
• You can sit comfortably with her and ask her where she sees you in 10 years from now and even in 20, what your desires and how much money you will need to realize them, on the way you will show her the letters sent from the insurance companies (usually sent at this time of year) and pay attention to the allowance Your expected when retiring (obviously the amount there does not represent and depends on a number of variables) but the intention is to drop the token that without systematically correct investments over time there is a likelihood that a normal routine will result in a significant decline in standard of living, show it not to scare but To look at reality in the eyes and start to see what can be done to realize Your desires.
  Successfully
• Explains to her that the real risk of continuing life, not investing and hoping that everything will be fine
• Wow, you touched on a super important topic that is not so much talked about… The topic of couple communication about money, vision, goals, etc.… So first of all most of us have absorbed unhealthy concepts about money and communication around money. Most couples do not communicate properly about money. This issue can be a source of much abundance and growth or on the other hand of stress, tension and quarrels. Dealing with this subject is healthy and essential, but as with any subject, only while there is a pleasant atmosphere. Otherwise good things do not come out… To your very question, it is interesting to ask her how she sees your family's financial goals, and how she wants you to reach those goals. After that you will have the opportunity to share with her what you are doing, and ask her if she has any ideas for further ways to advance the economic goals she has set… This seems to me a good start to approach the subject…

  But it is important to see it as part of a process and not a whirlwind and we finished: "Here I convinced her"

• Michael, a question from God !! We constantly talk about motivating investors and motivating teams and generally motivating people, but we hardly talk about motivating our most important partner, which is the other half! First of all, I think it is very, very important to share. One should not confront the issue but talk about things. I would not actually start talking straight about real estate, let alone in the United States. You should start talking at all about the financial future of the family. What are your goals and objectives as a family, towards you and towards your children. After that talk about how these goals can be achieved. Explain to her the benefits, risks, thrills… It is important that she feels smooth. You most want when she's successful she's full and you most do not want her to say "I told you so" if it doesn't work. Anyway, good luck !!
• You will start to invest alone (if possible), she will see you succeed and get in touch with you, something else helped me flip or flop, husband and wife who make flips together.
  My wife had already told me that she would leave her job in the future and start investing with me
  Successfully!
• First of all, this is an excellent question!
  In my opinion, two are better than one, and to enlist the spouse into the joint effort will only help.
  Maybe you should just tell your spouse that it's important for you to have his or her involvement because:
  A. You want to exchange opinions
  B. Two brains are better than one
  third. You also do not completely feel confident about the subject and it would be better if we keep one on top of the other
  D. To examine together / or a joint journey of improving the family economic situation.
  It is likely that one is more pushing for the other, but singria is preferable
  In any case successfully
• Excellent question; I would direct the question to the Hamdan method of counseling, expect: https://youtu.be/SnuWVNE5BbI
• Friends!
  I like all the comments from everyone, just to show that I did read all the great and interesting comments from everyone!
  I really thank everyone for the comments and advice, some of which I will certainly take on and on.
  Thanks to everyone for joining us and a special thank you to Idan Shkedy for his time, which he devoted to me in a very long conversation!
  I would love to continue to be a learner and in the future perhaps teaching these subjects!
• I recommend an attempt to suggest that she read "Rich Daddy Poor Dad" is a book that changes a worldview and if after reading it she will not be convinced to take it to task then
• I'm new to the group, and must say: enjoy reading the rich content, especially the style and courtesy. The post is beautiful and important, and the answers are elaborate and advance. Well done to the borrowers and the poor!
• Michael, today and peace of mind is super important, so I would consider going for a shared dream, one that investment can bring.
  And find out what would have turned her on to take part in it.

• As a family mediator in the last 19 years, I can attest that this is a very important issue, which is especially noticeable when one spouse is an entrepreneur / freelance in his or her profession or profession and the other is hired / passive in his thought, occupation or conduct. In my experience, it is extremely difficult to bridge the two approaches. Good luck anyway!